Dr Jerry Mofokeng wa Makhetha, beloved and awardwinning actor always felt like an outsider in his family. Not only did he not look like any of his brothers or sister, his mother told him how he was wailing as a baby when he was introduced to his father's family for the first time. At the age of 58 he discovers who his real father is. Suddenly his search for identity makes sense. Dr Jerry gives the reader a glimpse into his family life, his children and his love for his wife. He writes humorously and poignantly about his career, sharing his wounds and his victories. Along the way he learnt some very important lessons about manhood. This is a memoir, but also a challenge for men to take up their masculinity in a responsible way.